Easing Anxiety & Fear With Art Therapy

At the end of 2011, when my watchwords (creativity, honesty & soulful purpose) for 2012 appeared, I had no idea just how much they’d become companions for my journey through Cancerville.

Even though Fall has officially begun, I want to talk about how I spent my summer, and how creativity has shown up as part of my journey to wellness.

Most of the other people I’ve met in Cancerville have a challenging time with the notion of giving grace in the face of this difficult diagnosis; referring to cancer as a beast which conjures up ideas of noble fights and merciless warriors focused on destruction of the enemy. Destruction, enemies, fighting… do not feel or sound like Love to me, but fear.

Fear is a companion we meet on any journey in life and it isn’t going anywhere. I’ve learned, fearlessness isn’t about a state or condition where no fear exists. That’s called grace. Part of healing, for me, has been about understanding and accepting with grace, my diagnosis and the fear about it. A state of grace allows me to accept and see the gifts that come with this journey.

The wisest of warriors understand fearlessness is really about how we show up in the face of our adversity. How present we remain when fear gets up in our face. Remaining present is a condition we cultivate from within, and is not based on certain external conditions being met or the absence of them.

This summer, I completed six rounds of chemotherapy. Every two weeks for 12 weeks, I went in, got hooked up and sat and watched as Adriamycin & Cytoxin (AC for short in Cancerville) was pushed into my veins. One of the reasons I believe I was able to handle chemotherapy with mild to very little side affects was because of what I told myself about what was happening to me. I told my story about it, and refused to listen to or chime in with others who wanted to compare long lists of complaints. I couldn’t focus on those things if I expected to heal with the help of chemotherapy.

What I did do though, when fear arrived (because it did and continues to visit regularly whispering to me stories about poison, toxicity and long-term side affects) was a lot of art.

What do you think about when you create art? Do you remember art class in school? It was one of my favorite times because I knew I could relax. Turn my brain off; at least a portion of it. And since fear is so good at serving up endless scenarios as possibilities for my future, encouraging me to size up exactly what I’m up against, art has been the perfect therapy to bring me back to the present moment and help me focus and stay there.

One of my favorite art projects this summer has been transferring Instagram photos to wood (specifics about how to do it yourself can be found in this post). Transferring Instagram photos to wood requires time, which is what I got a lot of these days. Rolling wet paper—that’s been glued down onto one inch thick 6 x 6 inch pieces of wood—into little balls takes a lot of patience. And when I’m working with it, I can’t really think about anything else. Not cancer, not chemo, not my upcoming bi-lateral mastectomy. Just whether or not I’m being gentle enough with the soaked paper so I don’t remove the ink that’s been transferred to the wood.

I also purchased a coloring book made specifically for women that encourages creative expression and giving you a voice to all the parts of the healing journey. Called She Dances Between the Worlds, this 90-page journal provides illustrations by artist Shiloh Sophia McCloud as well as blank pages that will support pencils, watercolor, markers or acrylic paint. The artist also includes her own inspirational thoughts about being a creative woman like “Yes, it is her we are after here — yes, the outrageous one within you!!!” and quotes from other brave, creative feminine voices.

Yes, it is her we are after here — yes, the outrageous one within you!!! ~ Shiloh Sophia McCloud

At a recent breast cancer support group meeting where Art Therapy was the evening’s topic, we were encouraged to write a word down and use any kind of medium provided in the class to expand and express ourselves. I started to write the word “whole,” then chickened out for a second and with only the “w” drawn thought about changing it to “well.” Since surgery was on my mind, I decided to honor myself and my fear about the transformation my physical body will undergo next month. I recognize that I’m in the process of discovering greater wholeness. Even though surgery looms, for the first time in my life I’m really listening to my inner teacher, trusting her voice and what she wants me to acknowledge and understand.

And very soon, I plan on doing something with the plaster bust I created during Keep-A-Breast’s Treasured Chest event.

All summer long, I’ve focused on creativity, as a way to help myself heal and to keep my mind focused on affirming life & it’s pleasures; slowing down my endless mind chatter that is filled with anxiousness, worry & fear.

Art therapy is teaching me how to remain present with uncertainty. I’m practicing trusting myself and this journey through Cancerville, believing there are no mistakes & I can’t do any part of this wrong. Which is the same advice every good art teacher gives to her students.

When was the last time you picked up coloring pencils or magic markers? Or sat and colored with your children? It’s a wonderful way to come back to the moment and practice being gentle with your self when the tides of fear rise up and feel overwhelming.

Facing breast cancer or other chronic illness and looking for some relief from the anxiety it brings? If you’re interested in shifting some of your own personal stories about health & wellness, this optimystical way I see things—is my gift, my superpower—that I’d love to share with you. If you feel you’d benefit by it, visit my coaching page for more info.
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Hug My Cancer

How do you write about life-changing moments? Like… where do you start? Those biiiiigg stories. That feel like you have to reach far back in time to the beginning, instead of simply saying, this is what it is.

Stories. Our stories. The ones that happened to us. The ones that are happening now. The ones we wish & hope for which I call dreams… stories literally shape our lives. In every way.

I’ve been learning a lot about personal storytelling. And Love.

My personal story got a re-write Friday, May 4th. I have cancer. And what I know is one of the most amazing stories of my life is unfolding.

One I never thought I might be telling, not from this vantage point anyway. And here I am. Optimystical Mynde… pedallar of dreams & the magic of believing. Ironic? Mysterious? Karmic? It is what it is.

I am discovering, if I’m willing to be bravely present-moment-minded, so much of everything I’ve ever asked for, sought after or wanted

is right here.

In every tear drop. In each embrace. Words spoken and unspoken.

For today, the story about me and cancer goes like this… I’m doing everything I can to make peace with it. To Love myself. And it.

And let in the amazing outpouring of Love others are offering.

I’m certain about only a few things. I gotta share the journey.

That’s who I am.

I will continue to do what I have been doing, but in a new & different way. Because that’s what we do.

It’s how we do change.

If you’re kinda stunned right now, I understand. It is kinda like a Mack truck, huh?

If you keep reading, I’ve got an idea that I think might help us both/all.

Hug My Cancer

So, I am a believer that fairies live in the words we spell, in our language. Linda Goodman tipped me off to this language of lexigramming & I recently purchased a book called It’s All In The Name by Sharita Star who’s riffed off what Linda shared and become quite masterful with it.

I’m just starting out. And when I received this diagnosis, through snotted up tears, standing in the kitchen one night rather recently I said to whoever had ears to hear it, “I know the word GRACE is in the word CANCER somewhere!” (Even though clearly there is no G in the word CANCER, d’oh!)

But if you HUG MY CANCER, there is!

Let’s be creative.

When things get hard, it’s time to up the fun-ante (something I talk about in the first chapter of my ebook Web Presence Essentials). Sometimes, when it gets really hard and I can’t imagine what fun would look like or feel like, I think about pre-school children.

My daughter went to a pre-school called ‘Discovery Depot.’ I remember doing a lot of peeking when she was this age. In another’s care. I wanted to see her state-of-mind, her state-of-being. And get the indications “all is well in her world.”

When I close my eyes and peek in on this memory, I see children sitting in a circle, playing, interacting together, filling in the gaps of a real-time reality with imaginings & make-believe.

Be a child with me today or sometime this week. 

  • Draw, paint, write, digital photography, video… just hug my cancer. 
  • Pick up your favorite teddy bear, or your real four-legged furry friend, hug them and share the photo on Instagram or text it to me privately at 714-328-3828. And we’ll hug my cancer, together.
  • Mailvu.com is super fun and easy way to record a video and email it anywhere. My email address is mynde (@) myndemayfield (dot) com.

Why would I hug my cancer or want you to? Why not? Love is miraculous. And I’m willing to receive.

Hug my cancer? Won’t you? (Really! I’m certain about this.)

Oh, and what in your life might really begin to shift & change if you decided to love and accept it, instead of fight and conquer it?

Try kindness. Try courage. Try honesty. Try hugs & smiling. Or looking up at the sky. Try not to stop the tears when they want to come. Try. Experiment. Do something different. ♥ ~mm:)

Ready to talk about how to feel empowered to survive & thrive on your cancer journey? If you’re interested in shifting some of your own personal stories around health & wellness, this optimystical way I see things is my gift—my superpower—that I’d love to share with you. If you feel you’d benefit by it, visit my coaching page for more info.

Creative Rev

When you’re an artist, noticing & nurturing your creativity is vital. I’ve
discovered it helps me feel whole. Especially the more forms of creative
medium I engage with.

Because art invokes feelings & emotions, it’s heart-based. At least for me. Which is a beautiful compliment to the heady-stuff I get into being a web designer & technology integration specialist & astrologer.

Next week, I start an online photography class. I’m already getting revved up. Last weekend, I think I shot some my best photos yet (see my website footer for a peek or connect with me on Flickr.) I want to tell you why they were some of my best and to do that, I need to be really super candid.

I know, you’re shocked.

Last weekend, my girlfriend & I discussed what it would look like to not be coupled up (see? it’s difficult to even write the words.) Yes. Fucking scary! Evoking deep emotions connected with security & home (full moon in Cancer) which poured through me, often times uncontrollably.

mynde + thunderboltIt was challenging walking down the boardwark of Venice beach or Pismo’s pier with tears streaming down my face. But I did. She with her DSLR & iphone. Me, with my Thunderbolt.

It’s a very soothing thing that happens when I shift my focus into seeing life through my Thunderbolt. Moving my body, experiencing nature & other people, gave me such tremendous relief from the emotions that flooded my entire being.

I think about the brain here because when we are in different emotional states of being, it releases different chemicals on que. When we’re really frightened and experiencing a lot of anxiety about what’s going to happen next, the brain will do its thing and release chemicals that produce the fight or flight response. Or if we’re falling in love, it releases all the dopey stuff that makes us see stars & stuff like that.

And what happens for me—where the wholeness comes in—is when I’m creating. Even though I can feel extremely disconnected from Source (the negative emotions I experience indicate this), I re-connect to myself (Source) through a creative medium.

Design. Writing. Photography. Cooking. Music. All creative outlets. That when I give them my attention, heal me. Balance me. Providing this beautiful temperance. During moments when I think & feel like I’m falling apart.

Artists generally lean toward the deeper side of life. Our lives—a canvas of human experiences—drawing us together or apart, for our own growth & expansion. These rich experiences actually fuel our fires, our passion, stimulate new thoughts & ideas, give us meaning for being here—when here is often a difficult passage.

I’m using my creativity to sooth my soul & give myself the space to process, grow & learn. With each creative movement, tapping into more of myself, and bringing it forward into the light.

I invite you to consider your creative outlets, which ones you nurture. Which ones want to be noticed & nurtured a bit more? What might tapping in produce in your life? Or for your business?

Next week, I go deeper into my creative soul using technology. Me & my Thunderbolt join Bindu Wiles’ The Photo Essay Project – Level 2 (beginner’s are welcome!) for what promises to be more deepening, more wholeness & healing, more unfoldment of the mystery of my own humanity.

Which is your humanity also.

And most certainly tons of creative rev that I’ll be channelling into this brand new 2012.

If you’re into photography or considering a new creative outlet using your iphone or android device, find out more about Bindu’s photography course here. I’ve worked with Bindu on & off since 2005. Her perspectives on life, art & creativity offer ways to connect more deeply so that you can reshape your current reality in a powerful, transformative way.

For The Artist In You

Abraham & The Artists

“This is becoming a world (and more of you are beginning to feel it) where the niche-ness of You; the niche markets, the niche hobbies, the niche interests… this is the time for them!” ~Abraham

At the Abraham-Hicks workshop I attended in early March, the same one where I was called up to the hotseat, something interesting about the other “hotseaters” I noticed was how many of them were also artists.

A painter. A musician. And a writer.

Each of their questions asking for clarification on how to best support themselves in their creative processes and what to do with their resistance.

We all need support and encouragement to trust the art within us and let it flow out. As a coach and writer myself and as a web presencer for women whose primary medium online is often writing, I’m familiar with resistance. I find myself almost constantly soothing self-doubt. Believing thoughts like, ‘I need training before I can be taken as a serious writer/actor/musician/ [insert yours here.]’

There are lots and lots of other thoughts along this path I won’t go into here. You know the ones that get in your way. I’ll bet you are thinking about it now… that thing you say to yourself most often and you just stop.

You stop following your artist’s lead.

Today’s post is for the artist in you. A few messages from Infinite Intelligence meant to help you when resistance shows up.

The Painter

Her desire is to create income from her art and she’s been noticing that when she tries, constructs a grand plan for it, it never comes.  She wants to know how to better sift through her creative ideas and which one to put on her canvas before overworking it…

“In a moment when it’s not happening, tell yourself, ‘Later Gator!’ Don’t have the conversation. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t ask, ‘What’s wrong!?’ Don’t worry about what’s wrong… remind yourself, ‘It’s oil. I can paint over it.’

Put your brushes down, put your words down, put your thoughts down. As quickly as you can, pull your attention away from any thought that is giving you the feeling of frustration.

Your goal is to always paint when you feel good. You could even start out feeling pretty good while you’re painting and your mind could wander over to something that feels not so good… Stop painting!”

That’s our encouragement about anything.”

The Musician

He wants to know how to know who to give his demo tapes to… and what if he hasn’t done or isn’t doing something right? How will his music ever then be received?

“When you present your genius to someone else, we want you to don the stance of the one who is doing the interviewing, not the one being interviewed.

You’ve created something they may or may not be up to speed with and in this meeting you are going to find out whether they are qualified or not qualified to be the presenter of what you’ve created.

But there are people who are ready, qualified and waiting for you. And you are not attached to the outcome because you know there is so much more that is coming!

In the ownership of that, that is how you proclaim to the Universe, “I AM the creator. Bring it on. Bring the cooperative components to me!

And as you practice that stance, what you’re going to discover is, those Executives/Editors/Agents don’t understand any of it anyway!

In other words, they are totally gut-oriented. They are looking for confidence. They are looking for stability. They are looking for someone who knows what they are doing. And when you are under the influence of pure positive energy flowing through you, knowing what you are doing, they are going to know that you know what you are doing. And they’ll say, ‘Yeah, that’s good!’”

The Writer

A professor who writes and wants to inspire others with his writing. He’s felt a deep connection to Source before in his classroom, in front of his students. They are all “ready” for him. He’s familiar with the feeling of inspiration flowing through him. But he still hasn’t written his book.

“There are so many people who want to motivate their audience. You see the hype. You see the hype in the advertisements. You see the games that they all play, trying to motivate you in order to come and see what they’ve got…

Can we give you a little hint?

You are not writing to them.

You are having the inspired moment where you are receiving for your personal benefit.

That’s what we were saying to the artist, what we were saying to all of you… If you leave who you think is receiving you out of the picture, then you leave all that probability of distortion (disillusionment) out of your vibration.

You write for the thrill of writing. You write for the thrill of the inspiration. You write not to write the book, but because you want to feel that life-giving feeling of inspiration flowing through you!

And that’s what you want to remind yourself of…

Your painting is magnificent but it doesn’t appeal to everyone.

Your books are magnificent, your music is magnificent, what you do is magnificent but it does not appeal to everyone… nor does it need to.

Law of Attraction will bring those to you, who are a vibrational match. But you’ve got to be a vibration match to your own work first.

One who is connected, who is in that place of allowing the full force of creative expression to flow through their being, is more powerful than millions who are not!

It’s not about whether they are ready for you, it’s about, whether you are in alignment with who you are. And when you line up with you, you broadcast a signal that makes you more findable, it makes you more reachable, it makes you more seeable.

‘I’m not writing it because you need to read it. I’m writing it because I want to write it. Because I want to line up with it. Because I want to BE it. Because I want the knowledge expansion that it represents for me.

 

And I think there are probably plenty of others out there like me that would resonate with it too. There are plenty of them out there for me to be a successful writer. There are plenty of them.’

This is becoming a world (and more of you are beginning to feel it) where the niche-ness of You, the niche markets, the niche hobbies, the niche interests… this is the time for them!”

We create to receive. To feel the universal life-giving energy of Source flowing through us. We create to see and know ourselves. To become more self-accepting. To honor the Love we are created from.”

Go. Now. Follow… follow your artist’s lead.

Portions of this text were directly transcribed from a workshop held on March 5, 2011 in Los Angeles, California. For more information about the teachings of Abraham, visit Abraham-Hicks.com.

Your Web Presence & Showcasing Your Art

mar·quee [mahr-kee –noun

  1. a tall rooflike projection above a theater entrance, usually containing the name of a currently featured play or film and its stars.

I’ve noticed that many more women are showing up asking for a very specific requirement for their web presence. They want a marquee style header.

At first, I thought this would be the exception. And it was, for a little while.

Most of my previous clients are coaches. Early on, I had one ‘typical’ artist show up and say yes to me and my way of webifying. And after analysis of what she was presenting to the world, and upon my recommendation to her, we designed her web presence using a different WordPress theme than is my usual standard. And Thesis is a standard in today’s web presencing universe.

I looked at what she was doing, and I decided it needed a different focus. Not that Thesis couldn’t handle her and what she does. Enough mystery, yeah? Please meet Laura Jacquemond from BlueTerracotta.com.

But my past clients were mostly going to be using their words to connect with their audience of right people. And I do believe, Thesis is a really great broad based solution for what most people starting out need in their first few years of online business making.

However, the earlier exception is now becoming the rule. And even in my own online business growth process, I personally am finding I need a different approach to how I’m showing my stuff to the world.

You & your art

I talk a lot in my main webification sales page about being a creator. Being an artist of some type. And that at our core, we all are. I think the importance of being able to express our own personal forms of creativity is so germane to the expansion of life.  To having a feeling of deeper meaning, satisfaction, joy… all the good stuff. I believe it’s what will save the world actually. Or make Heaven on Earth.

Expressing our personal forms of art heals us.

And artistic expression is everywhere. In every thing. Because it all begins with thought. An inspiration or desire. It begins there.

What I had been wanting for my own web presence was a way to showcase my gallery. I’m an artist, and I need a gallery. Right now, I have a list in my sidebar, of clients I’ve worked with and am working with (well not this very second, because I’m writing this now, but there they are… see? look in the sidebar).

I have all the right ingredients, including testimonials, screenshots… ya know, the whole she-bang. All the things I think you’d like to see in order to make the decision of whether or not you’re going to visit my contact page and set up our chat about your web presence.

The information coming easily, in a naturally-feeling organized manner… like “uhuh uhuh uhuh…” click click click. Easy. (Emphasis on easy… ya feelin’ me?)

I’ve played with a few plug-ins (I plan to share that with you another time soon). I built galleries in several of them. Just not satisfied. Not feelin’ it.

So I’m bopping around Facebook and I notice a certain something that calls to my attention… drag & drop WordPress theme. “Oh?” I muse.

You see, I’m always thinking about you. Well not always. But you know what I mean. I want it to be easier for you… the whole technology thing. And I strongly believe that if technology doesn’t make itself easier to use, it will not be around. It must build ease-of-use into itself to thrive and expand. If it’s too challenging to use, nobody will use it.

May seem counterintuitive because in a sense, I undermine your need of my services. But I don’t see it that way. My bottom line is empowerment. I say that right-off-the-bat on my web presencing sales page.

What a marquee styled header is…

Marquee, marquee, marquee… what the hell is it?! Ok, well… read the definition again at the top of this post and then visit my client Megan Matthieson. It’ll be like bam! I promise…. Go quick…

So drag & drop WordPress theme, marquee based header. If you like it and it’s right for what your sharing… still with me?

If you are strictly biz and not an artist, then this is where you showcase your latest product or just simply sell what you do with imagery and some verbiage. It’s your billboard people. It’s your electronic billboard.

I say this all the time. If you’re a client, you’re gonna nod your head. Ready? You’ve got 2.5 seconds.

That’s it! If they don’t see what they want to see, they click the back button (or hit backspace on their keyboard like I do.)

So you gonna make’em read it or are you gonna show it to them?

My new theme choice is…

My new theme is called PlatformPro from Pagelines.com (yes, that’s an affiliate link). I’ve already sent them a lil love note… I really want them to come on by, pay me a visit (yes, it’s a secret wish). This is what it looks like when you fly-by-the-seat-of-your-optimystical-designer-ass… and it feels fun and free and wild to be… me. FINALLY!

I’m redesigning my website. I’m gonna share it with you in hopes that’ll it will help you turn your own corners about webifying and what you’re doing online, with your business.

My need for redesign is not about dissatisfaction in how my web presence looks or feels, it’s about needing to present the information in a more dynamic way. And it’s about growing and expanding myself into technology as-I-go, not all at once. Which is crazy to think that we could or can, but we do it nonetheless.

You and your web presence may not need PlatformPro now. And you might be an artist like me; needing flexible, easy & dynamic. A showcase for your art. And if your art is your writing, Thesis is still (really), more than good enough to get you going.

That’s it for today. Stay-tuned for more… where hopefully I’ll have a few shorter installments. Right now, I gotta a redesign story to tell. And I’m excited to tell it.

Till soon,
mm.

Got redesign questions?

Use the form on my contact page and just ask!

Designing A Vision

Web Designer. It’s a title I hold, that I don’t take too lightly. In fact, my recently dissed inferiority beliefs whisper to me about not being a real one all the time.

Design has so many connotations. I feel sometimes, too small to be included in such a rich and diverse crowd called “Designers.”

But I do know a lot about it. And like any other artist, the way I express it is unique to me. It doesn’t mean I have to know all the ways the art can be expressed in order to express my own. I can still just do my thang.

Last week I talked about the pipeline I first saw in the shower. And if you glance at the photo, it’s pretty easy to see I’m heading into a massive design session with several new clients.

I’m attempting to space things out as much as I can. But I’m not exactly sure what I’m doing at all. I’ve never been this busy with this many design projects at once.

I’ve asked a few new biz ops if they don’t mind waiting until November 1 to begin our optimystical adventure in web presencing themselves. Never done that either. I’m not sure what I was so freaked out about. I guess I was afraid they would say this isn’t a good fit because timelines don’t match and then my habit of taking it personally would get inflamed. Or that, in some way I’m holding out my hand to the universal flow of abundance and saying “stop!” Either way, I sense that whatever I am thinking about, is taking me out of it (a flow of well-being).

And I was pleasantly surprised, when I asked for what I think I needed (time and space between the flow of the projects coming in). I experienced very little resistance really. It had only been my thinking up till now, that had been resistant.

New client says, “OK, I trust you” [insert intentional “sink in” pause here].

I think I need to read that one a few thousand times and let it in… it’s a big deal to hear anyone in your web audience say they trust you. It means whatever they see you doing or saying, they believe is honest and true and genuine. And real. You trust what I’m showing you is who I am.

Jedi: Hello? Mynde! You are doing really really good.

I wondered this morning if I’m not just believing in scarcity again. This time around time and not having enough of it to do what I love AND be happy, well and expansive at once.

So I pondered what I wanted, instead of focusing on what scares me (telling cool people like you, who might be reading this, “I don’t have enough space for you!” …ugh)

What if there was enough time for all of it? And what if, even when there seemed not to be enough time, the people I’m collaborating with understood that too? And showed up relaxed and easy going with it (and when they didn’t, I didn’t give a shit. Not in a mean, uncaring way, but in the “I care more about feeling good, all the time” way?)

And what if  they actually read my 6 Ways to Stay Optimystical During Your Webification Process several times during the process (like I do). To remind myself how to successfully navigate this web presencing path (or any path), kindly, toward self and others?

Oh and what if they got that this web presencing thing isn’t all my responsibility? Like, I just don’t make this happen. It might seem like “Tah-duh!” but it aint’ that way. I promise you.  (And wait, what if I got all that too?) What if each of us really owned our collaborative parts, asking for what we needed, feeling our way through it, with an attitude of friendliness toward it all?

What if when we each noticed uncomfortable, we did something different? We learned how to sit in it a little longer. Or we became curious instead? Or we discovered courage to say it out loud to each other?

And what if in this heavy design phase I’m about to enter with several wonderful “You’s that have already said Yes” I get clearer in my own biz process for what works and what doesn’t? And that scales out in a helpful expansive way so that I’m synchronistically connected to those I’m meant to serve? You. Me. Us. We. Each just showing up?

And what if, I just relaxed a little bit about it all. Trusted myself a bit more. Found the Love that is already here. And wrote more love notes to myself?

It’s a vision. By design.

We all are designers of some kind.

Designing our lives with the thoughts we think about most.

  • Where do your predominant thoughts rest?
  • Do you feel driven by your thoughts?

In my world I envision myself with no more fear of “not enough.” I’m noticing more often, what I’m thinking about and deciding if it truly supports me. I am intentionally choosing to direct my thoughts toward more life affirming visions. And my daily practice is living my life by design.

Jedi Moves: The Daily Grind

I think it’s easy to get lost in planning. In processes. In setting future-oriented goals to move toward.

It’s all good.

In a lot of ways, our structure gives us freedom. To flow with our creativity. To be more intentional with it.

And then a bad day hits. Knocking our processes and plans for the future out of kilter.

And you wonder where all your tools and resources went for weathering this, another stormy season.

I would say if the fear Jedi had a daily practice, like Qi Gong or something, it would be the act of making it her intention to approve of herself, constantly. In a mantra-like way.

There are many ways of wielding the saber of light in our lives and this practice of daily acknowledgment is just that, a life saver.

Inside each Jedi is a deep well. It accepts deposits from a very specific institution. Although you can put other people’s acceptance of you inside your well, this well can really only measure deposits from the Institute of You.

Every Jedi has a dark side. In it, a voice that says things like …

”What if you just made the biggest mistake in your life… like ever? NOW what will you do?” or

“Just what exactly do you think you are doing? No one really cares about that. It’s not important enough to matter to anyone else.” and

“What will so-and-so think? Omg, if XYZ found out then this would happen (fill in the blank). You had better not do that!”

The only thing that quiets the dark voice of fear is turning the Jedi’s focus to the light.

“I acknowledge myself for staying anchored in my own self while the storm is happening.”

“I acknowledge myself for deciding that I matter more than any current drama.”

“I acknowledge myself for showing up again today & being more me than ever before.”

It’s the only way to keep the edges sharp and clear. And keep the inside well of self-approval full of You.

A daily practice of “I approve of me” that tilts you ever so slightly in the direction of Love. Building reserves of confidence and self-esteem that keep helping you be free to be more you.